Should You Call Him The Next Day?
The day after you’ve had a new date, most of us daydream and reprocess everything in our heads. Unless the date was absolutely horrible, we spend most of the day wondering what our next move will be and what his next move will be. Do we wait for him to call us or do we call him?
This is the issue that drives us most crazy our single years. It’s not good enough to think of our move on our own. We drag our girlfriends, co-workers and even our family into this thought process. The problem is that everyone has their own idea on what to do which further confuses us. Why can’t things be easy? How come you practically need a manual for dating? We crave a good relationship but when we careful calculate our next move right from the beginning, things seem too contrived.
Calling the next day does seem desperate but if you feel like you made a great connection on your date, then go for it. When you call it’s your opportunity to reiterate how much fun you had the previous night. Plus it’s a great way to see how he responds and if he feels the same way you do.
You can pretty much tell by the conversation you’re having, if he’s into you. Some men rather be called then having to do the chasing themselves. It also shows you’re not interested in playing the games that most singles play. It says you’re a straight forward type of girl. Who needs all of the complication of the games?
Don’t be disappointed or upset if it appears he’s blowing you off on the phone. It could mean one of two things. Either he didn’t feel the same way you did on the date or he’s right in the middle of something. Women tend to overreact and overanalyze too easily. If someone tells us, they’ll have to call us back they’re on the other line or they were just on their way out, we interpret it as them saying, I’m not interested in you.
If this happens when you call, you’re going to have to give him one more chance. See what happens the next time you call him. Or you could ask him to call you back. If after a few days he doesn’t return your phone call, then you can assume he’s not interested. Never call a guy at work. He may give you his work number but calling someone at work might get them in trouble with their superior. Plus it’s always a little awkward talking to him when you know other people are probably sitting right next to him listening to the conversation.
Basically there is no right or wrong way to handle things after your first date. Go with your gut instincts and don’t worry what others say. If this guy is truly worth your time, he won’t play games and he won’t mind you calling him first the next day.
