Getting Dumped
It has happened to all of us at some point in our lives. We’ve been dating someone exclusively for a long time and then suddenly they tell you they don’t want to be with you anymore. You’ve just been dumped. Most times you don’t even see it coming. It hits you like a ton of bricks. As they’re talking you can hardly hear them because you’re trying to figure out in your mind where this all started and how it came about.
You thought everything was going well in the relationship. Usually the person that dumped you has been thinking about doing this for a long time. They were probably waiting to get the nerve up to do it. Sometimes they’ll use a minor argument to initiate their cause for dumping you.
Being dumped can be so hurtful. I think the shock is the worst part of it all. The fact that you didn’t see it coming makes you feel stupid and angry at the same time. It will take time to get over all of the anger and resentment you have towards the person. Many times the person gives you such lame excuses for why things aren’t working out between you. This only angers you more as you can see they are obviously not telling you the truth.
Your mind wanders and you begin to feel paranoid. Is there someone else? Were they secretly cheating on you? Even though you ask them, they deny it. Why can’t they just be honest with you? It seems like when you’re being dumped, the other person completely shuts off all of their emotions. The conversation is very robotic. No matter what you say to them they are not interested in giving the relationship another chance. They have already made their mind up.
When we get dumped we go through similar emotions as a loss. Even though you start to feel utter hatred for the person that dumped you, you will go through a sense of loss and mourning. We feel insecure and unwanted. After being dumped many of us want to stay in and sulk. We avoid social situations for a while. That’s okay.
Take time for yourself to adjust to your new independence. You might mull over plans to seek revenge on the person that dumped you. Even though that’s understandable because you’re hurt, don’t waste any more of your time thinking of this jerk. If you have personal ting of theirs, give it back to them or throw it out. You don’t need to be constantly reminded of this person.
After you have some time to process everything, start doing things to make yourself feel better. Some people find it easier to get right back into the dating pool. You don’t need to find your true love. However a couple of fun dates will help pick your spirits back up and help you to realize that other people like you and value you. Keep you head up. You will get through it.
