Giving Blind Dates A Chance
After choosing too many losers on my own and feeling depressed that I couldn’t at least have a good time, I decided to let my friends choose some dates for me. I had not been on any blind dates before as I would never have allowed myself in the past. I always thought I knew myself best and would also know what type of person was best for me.
I guess I was wrong. In the past 6 months I have not had one decent date. I don’t need to find love. I just need to have good conversation and some fun. I couldn’t even find that lately. I was wondering if maybe my problem is I put physical attraction first before any other attributes. I was looking more toward the way a person looks than what they had inside.
My best friend hooked me up on a blind date with a co-worker of hers. For our date, we went out to lunch and then ice skating. It was a casual daytime date. We met at the café we were having lunch at. I was so nervous on my way to meet him because I just feared this date would be a disaster. To my surprise, the date went off without a hitch. I enjoyed myself tremendously. He wasn’t quite what I had in mind physically but it didn’t matter.
He was warm, caring, personable and real funny. It was definitely no love match but I think my best friend did a great job fixing me up. I suddenly became a fan of blind dates. The great thing about them is that usually if it doesn’t work out in a romantic way, you’ve at least made a new friend. Plus most of your friends know enough about you to know what qualities you seek in another person.
In preparing for your blind date there are a few things to keep in mind. Decide that you are going to have fun regardless of what this person looks like. I think we waste so much time searching for the perfect person that we don’t take the time to just enjoy life. Don’t take it too serious. It’s only a date.
Don’t have such high expectations for the date either. If you’re expecting this to be your soul mate, forget it. That only happens in the movies. Relax and just enjoy each others company. If you go into the date expecting too much, surely you will be disappointed. Choose a fun place to go. Get involved with a fun activity like mini golf, skating or an amusement park.
Doing an activity together will help to take the pressure off of the date. You won’t have to force conversation to happen as much. If you run out of things to say, you can always bring up the friend who set you both up. Or you can discuss things like movies and books.
So from my experiences, I can tell you that blind dates are not as horrible as you think. If you find you’re not meeting any quality people, let your friends or family set you up. I highly recommend it. What do you have to lose?
